Meditation seems to be making its way into ‘fashion’ as the ever busy, technology filled world keeps us on our toes. A huge shift and interest in technology has created a society where it seems that typically, a person will ‘check their phone’ on average 100 times a day, will check their emails several times a day, will watch tv daily, buy a new computer console once ever few years. A lot of kids seem more interested in playing computer games and accessing games on phones and iPads.
For most, work hours are more, bills are plentiful, and for some- debts are high! In order to pay them, it is often necessary to take on a second job. Gone seem the days where within a ‘family unit’ one parent stays home to overlook general housekeeping and cooking. It is lot more common now for both parents to work.
People are busy. Busy people. Every day. When I was teaching I was too busy to think straight, too busy to rest, too stressed to sleep, too broke to give it up and find something else.
When I was a child, like most children back then, I’d wake up (weekends and non school days) without an agenda. I’d no plan of what I’d do that day. I’d potter around, perhaps watch a little tv if I fancied. I’d get hungry, so I’d eat. I’d get bored, so I’d knock on my friends and invite them to come out to play. We’d ride our bikes, sing songs, walk the fields, watch a video, play a game, pratt around… Basically just go with the flow. Spontaneously.
As I’ve grown older (and I guess it’s the same for most folks) everything has become so regimented. There never seems to be a spare few minutes. It’s rare to have that ‘time’ to just enjoy doing, well, nothing. Or planning time to choose to spend it how you feel like spending it- when the time comes (if that makes sense). Basically, you have blank time. And you’d leave it blank til the times comes. And when the time comes, you’d then decide to do whatever the heck you feel like doing.
I’d always be running around trying to get on top of my huge to do list, which is never ending by the way, only now I am able to manage it differently. I am able to write this post as I have plenty of time now. I thought ‘fcuk it. I’m jumping on a plane’ and that’s what I did. Because life was stressful. It was getting me down. And I had to do something about it. I’m so glad I did.
I’m going to share with you the process I have been through since deciding to leave the teaching profession.
– wooohooo stress free life, here I am!
– my gosh, buzzing with excitement. I can do whatever the heck I want!
– look at all the baby classes! Ok, let’s try these. Three a week. Perfect.
– time for a double gym class
– ok, what do I want?
– I love cooking. Not good enough yet. Maybe I should do a course, or study the authors of the books I’ve bought. Most have an inspiring food/health story
– I need a plan
– time for a nice gym sesh, smashed it!
– crap! I still don’t have a plan.
– time for the gym, where are my trainers!?
– I’ll check my blog, I know- I’ll add some new food posts with pictures
– why don’t I have a plan!? Shit, what will I do!? I have bills to pay.
– ok. Arbonne. This could work. A nice steady income. I just need to work on my self confident. Self help books should help. Let’s buy a dozen.
– taking the kids for a nice day out. Walking. Let’s go.
– Its time to blog!
– I love jogging, I can think so clearly.
– coffee with a friend, wow this is great. I absolutely do not want a 9-5 job. How would I fit all this fun stuff in?
– Should really start those self help books
– time for a quick blog, let’s look at the list of all the things I want to blog about, and choose a few
– housework. Feels so good when everything is done. I’m actually great at housework.
– photography. Yes. Do it. Always loved taking photographs.
– let’s watch lots of YouTube videos about photography and learn some skills.
– gym, busy busy- wow, how I love the gym!
– cooking, time to focus and learn about the basics. What makes a good staple ingredient to work from?
– what should I do with the kids this weekend?
– It’s absolutely time to sit down for a reading session. I’ll pop over to my mothers where I can concentrate, right after I do the dishes, have a quick hoover round and leave the house leaving spic and span.
– time to take little one to the boogie babies class. He loves that class. I love that class. What will I do when there is no longer this class? He’s growing so big
– oh crap, I haven’t been focussing on Arbonne. Let’s make a huge to do list.
– in fact, I fancy a change in the living room. If I decorate, I’ll get into the reading much more easily. Let’s do it. I’ll paint it green. Some new cushions, doesn’t have to cost the earth.
– Gym session finished. Feel absolutely amazing! (perhaps I should do something based on fitness? Makes sense! Always been interested in it. Plus all the health benefits. I’d learn loads too!
– I’ve got it… Health coach! First, let’s join all the online seminars and doe lap a bunch of e books. I’ll read them later
– time for the kids swim. I wonder what Clarke thinks.
– Email from Dr Mercola. Love these emails. I learn loads. Perfect for my blog. I’ll read it later.
– Hugely aware of how much I seem to be using my phone and laptop at the moment. I need to introduce a ‘digital detox’ and give myself a set time each day to get my tasks out the way with.
Perhaps I should ditch the phone. I’d definitely have more time for the kids. A massive step in the right direction. Then again, I do use the computer for learning. Yes, digital detox it is. No phones and computers- on Saturdays.
– Tea time. What can I cook now? Something new. Something tasty. Let try mixing a few menus together. Nice. Few pictures here and there. I’ll upload those to my blog and share on my Facebook page
– I really enjoyed reading that novel last year. I practically couldn’t put it down. I think I need to plan some serious reading time. Reading for self development and reading for pure pleasure (and that’s not to say I don’t love reading the self development books- because I absolutely DO). Maybe I could write a novel one day. It doesn’t seem so hard (I haven’t the foggiest how to start, remember these are my thoughts so totally no disrespect meant to all those amazing authors out there. I mean- perhaps I could write a novel. That’s not to say it’d be any good, ha ha).
– Quick flick through the recipe books so I can get some new bits from dunelm to make my food look amazing on screen. I love making things look good.
– Haven’t watched tv in months. Feel amazing for it. But now fancy a movie. A lovely treat
– I should remember to eat more raw. Coming to think of it, I bet I could start gardening again soon. It’s starting to brighten up.
– The kids are hard work right now. There’s too much to do and I can’t relax. Sod it! I’m going on holiday.
And that, my friends, leads me to this present day.
Obviously a snap shot of the past so many months- there has been lots more repetition (kids stuff, cooking, blogging, gym, reading, learning, looking at courses, coming up with new ideas, meeting friends….) and I’ve loved being off ‘work’ and doing tons of great stuff…
But I was also worrying in between all this activity, and worrying about money. This was having huge shifts in my mind set and my thinking. Constantly wondering what I’d do for work and how I’ll pay the bills. I don’t worry now, because I’m sure it will work itself out. I keep doing what I’m interested in, I know that I will be lead to the right path, and I have so many ideas buzzing around in my head. Just need to keep my eyes open for opportunity and my mind open to new ideas. Sorted.
I’ve recently become a leader and organiser of ‘ParentPreneur’. This is something I love. After attending other networking meetings, I found them of real value. It’s ace going to those sorts of meetings because you learn so much from others and you even learn bits about yourself. They motivate you, they encourage you to go for it, and you get a bunch of new ideas along the way. The atmosphere is great and there is a real sense of belonging as everybody is so nice.
As part of the meetings I got to meet Maya. She runs her Enjo business- all to do with cleaning without the use of sprays and harmful chemicals. Instead, the specially designed cloths can be used to clean your kitchen, your living room, your bathroom… Even your toilet! Basically the whole entire house using the clever patented micro fibre design. This shizz is seriously up my street! I’m all for anti chemicals. In fact, I read a book not long ago, all about using Apple Cider Vinegar, Borax, Baking Soda and … Can’t remember the last one. All instead of chemicals. My point is, that’s something I might pursue. Because it’s of value.
Whilst on holiday, it’s funny how you spontaneously decide what to do based on what you feel like doing (just like throughout your childhood- I appreciate that is a generalisation). Hungry- eat. Bored- play. Tired- sleep (mostly fight it, but eventually, sleep)
My post started off as a post about mindfulness and meditation. I guess I’ve gone overboard on being mindful, so much so that I’ll now name this post something along the lines of being mindful of your thoughts and of your actions.
But I’d love you to follow my post about meditation by clicking HERE!
To sum up, I guess I’ve learnt a lot these past few months, about the person I am, and the person I’m not.
Fancy cars don’t bother me, money doesn’t motivate me- I like what I like. Sure, we all need money. But as long as I can pay the bills and enjoy a holiday here and there, I’m pretty much happy.
Especially if it means I don’t have to spend 40-60+ hours a week in a 9-5 + some (lots of jobs require you to work extra). I’d rather have 5 roles, doing what I love, working when I choose, than being in the same job all day every day. On that note, I’ve also decided to return to teaching. I loved teaching. But I didn’t love the weekly hours, the planning (not the marking when it was 25 lessons a week). But I did love coming up with ideas and teaching the children. So, I’ll return to teaching, but one day a week (perhaps more the odd week if me and the kids need a holiday). And I’ll perhaps find something else. I’m not going to worry about that something else. Because there are lots of things I love. And there are lots of things I’m good at. I might learn the piano and perhaps I’ll teach others to play.
Who knows where this blog will take me? I’m currently on a blogging mission to educate people about the ingredients in their products. I’m pretty sure this is driving some of my friends and family nuts, but I could broaden my horizons. I can’t force people to read my blog, but some people might be drawn to read it. Who knows what might happen on the journey. I’ll continue with the Arbonne products, because most of them are great, but I’ll also be honest. Because that’s me, and who I am.
Yes, I have dreams. Yes, I have so much I want to learn and to achieve. And yes, it’s important to get certain things done. But I really am going to focus on going with the flow and to make sure I (mostly) do what I feel like doing, when I feel like doing it. Yes I’ll have a routine, but it won’t be set in stone. I will adapt it, according to how I feel. I’ll practice letting the other stuff go (and some of that might quite naturally not need doing by the time it comes back around).
So here it is… I’m reaching out to you. The bottom line- what is it that makes you tick? Are you successful- in life? That doesn’t need to have anything to do with your job or your career, but I guess only you know how to judge your own success.
Have you sat down and worked out how much free time you have? Have you thought about how you’re spending your free time? Do you get to do the things you love? Do you know what you love? If you’re not particularly happy doing what you do… Then please… Change it. And if you be help… Grab a couple of books and allow yourself the time to enjoy them. Xx
I’d love to hear from you! What are you doing for work? Do you consider it ‘work?’ Do you love what you do? Do you make time to do the things you love?
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